Can this incident be quoted?

A man once came to complain about his wife to Sayyiduna ‘Umar ibn Al Khattab (radiyallahu ‘anhu). However when he got to the door he heard Ummu Kulthum (radiyallahu ‘anha) raising her voice to Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radiyallahu ‘anhu). He said to himself, I am coming to complain regarding my wife whereas Sayyiduna ‘Umar is going through the same predicament, so he turned away. Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radiyallahu ‘anhu) called him back and inquired from him the reason for his visit. When this man explained, Sayyiduna ‘Umar said he overlooks his wife due to the following reasons:

1) She is a means of protection from Jahannam as she prevents him from haram/zina

2) She protects his home and wealth in his absence

3) She washes his clothes

4) She bore his children

5) She cooks and bakes for him

The man said that his wife does the same so he too will overlook her faults.



I have not come across any chain for this incident.

Faqih Abu Layth As Samarqandi and Hafiz Ibn Hajar Al Haytami (rahimahumallah) have cited it without quoting the chain of narrators.

(Tambihul Ghafilin, pg. 486 and Az Zawajir, vol. 2 pg. 50)



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