Etiquettes – Hadith Answers

Reciprocating a gift or praising the bestower

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Is this a Hadith?

If someone is given something, he should give a return for it provided he can afford if he cannot afford, he should praise him. He who praises him for it, thanks him, and he who conceals it is ungrateful to him

Another Hadith on respecting elders and showing mercy to children

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Kindly provide the reference, authenticity, and translation of the following narration:

عَنْ أَبِي أُمَامَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: بَيْنَما رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَمَعَهُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرُ وَأَبُو عُبَيْدَةَ بْنُ الْجَرَّاحِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ فِي نَفَرٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ إِذْ أُتِيَ بِقَدَحٍ فِيهِ شَرَابٌ، فَنَاوَلَهُ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَبَا عُبَيْدَةَ، فَقَالَ أَبُو عُبَيْدَةَ: أَنْتَ أَوْلَى بِهِ يَا نَبِيَّ اللهِ. قَالَ: خُذْ فَأَخَذَ أَبُو عُبَيْدَةَ الْقَدَحَ، ثُمَّ قَالَ لَهُ قَبْلَ أَنْ يَشْرَبَ: خُذْ يَا نَبِيَّ اللهِ، قَالَ نَبِيُّ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم: «اشْرَبْ، فَإِنَّ الْبَرَكَةَ فِي أَكَابِرِنَا، فَمَنْ لَمْ يَرْحَمْ صَغِيرَنَا، وَيُجِلَّ كَبِيرَنَا فَلَيْسَ مِنَّا»

Overlook the errors of people of good mannerism

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Is this Hadith authentic?

أقيلوا ذوي الهيئات عثراتهم

Speak good, you will gain rewards

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Kindly translate the following Hadith from Musnadush Shihab:

قولوا خيرا تغنموا، واسكتوا عن شر تسلموا

Beardless youth are a greater source of mischief than young maidens

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Is the following narration suitable to quote?

Sayyiduna Anas (radiyallahu ‘anhu) has reported that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said:

‘Beware of beardless youth for they are a greater source of mischief than young maidens.’ Read More »

If modesty were to take the form of a man, it would be a righteous man

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Is this suitable to quote?

“If modesty were to take the form of a man, he would be a righteous man. If shamelessness were to take the form of a man, he would be an evil man.”

Ten noble traits of character

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Is the following narration suitable to quote?

Sayyidah ‘Aaishah (radiyallahu ‘anha) has said that there are ten noble traits of character:

Speaking the truth.
[Having] True courage/strength when it comes to the obedience of Allah Ta’ala.
Giving to the needy.
Returning a good favor.
Maintaining family ties.
Taking care of and returning a trust [something kept by you for safekeeping].
Being good to the neighbor [stand up for him and protect his dignity].
Being good to the companion [stand up for him and protect his dignity].
Hosting and looking after the guest well.
And the best of them [i.e. these traits] is Modesty.

Excessive laughter causes the heart to die

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Is this narration authentic?

عن أبي هريرة قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: لا تكثروا الضحك، فإن كثرة الضحك تميت القلب

The complete narration regarding if someone insults you, do not retaliate

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Please can you mention the entire narration which is answered here

Sayyiduna Jabir ibn Sulaym (radiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “…If any person reviles or insults you for something which he finds in you then do not insult him with what you know of him, for he will bear the evil consequences of it.”

(Sunan Abi Dawud, Hadith: 4081 and Sahih Ibn Hibban, Hadith: 521)

Harms of travelling alone

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Kindly explain the following Hadith:

Sayyiduna Ibn ‘Umar (radiyallahu ‘anhuma) has narrated that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam) said: ‘If the people knew what I know about travelling alone, then not a single rider would travel alone at night.’

(Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 2998) Read More »

If someone insults you, do not retaliate

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Is this a Hadith?

“And if a person reviles you and dishonours you with what he knows of you then do not degrade him (back) with what you know of him for the curse (of abuse) will only be upon him.”

The masnun method of shaking someone’s hand

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I was told that there exists a Hadith wherein mention is made that Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam) used to give a firm handshake whilst making Musafahah (i.e. shaking hands) [meaning to give it a wedge moving it up and down, as is normally observed in our daily interactions]. Would you be so kind as to please provide the reference? Read More »

An unreliable Hadith regarding sitting in direct sunlight

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Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) advised people to avoid sitting in direct sunlight because it spoils the clothing, causes a person to smell with perspiration and also causes suppressed illness to surface.

(Mustadrak: 8264)