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A mother’s marital advice to her daughter

Question

Can you provide please the authenticity and the Arabic text of this narration?

Asma bintu Kharijah al Fazari said to her daughter when she was getting married:

“You have left a nest in which you grew up and proceeding to a bed which you know not and a companion with whom you are not familiar. So become for him an earth, and he will become for you a sky. Become for him a place of rest, and he will become for you a pillar of [support]. Become for him a bondmaid, and he will become for you a servant. Do not make excessive demands from him, for he will then loathe you. Do not distance yourself from him, for he will then forget you. Should he draw near to you, then draw close to him. Should he keep his distance, then stay away from him. Be mindful of his nose, his hearing and his eyes such that he smells nothing from you but that which is fragrant, hears nothing but that which is good, and looks at nothing but that which is beautiful.”

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How to create harmony in a marriage

Question

Is this narration authentic:

  عَنِ الثَّوْرِيِّ، عَنِ الْأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي وَائِلٍ قَالَ: جَاءَ رَجُلٌ مِنْ بَجِيلَةَ إِلَى عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، فَقَالَ: إِنِّي قَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ جَارِيَةً بِكْرًا، وَإِنِّي قَدْ خَشِيتُ أَنْ تَفْرِكَنِي، فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ: إِنَّ الْإِلْفَ مِنَ اللَّهِ، وَإِنَّ الْفَرْكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ، لِيُكَرِّهَ إِلَيْهِ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَهُ، فَإِذَا أُدْخِلَتْ عَلَيْكَ فَمُرْهَا فَلْتُصَلِّ خَلْفَكَ رَكْعَتَيْنِ، قَالَ الْأَعْمَشُ: فَذَكَرْتُهُ لِإِبْرَاهِيمَ، فَقَالَ: قَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ: وَقُلِ: اللَّهُمَّ بَارِكْ لِي فِي أَهْلِي، وَبَارِكْ لَهُمْ فِيَّ، اللَّهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِي مِنْهُمْ، وَارْزُقْهُمْ مِنِّي، اللَّهُمَّ اجْمَعْ بَيْنَنَا مَا جَمَعْتَ إِلَى خَيْرٍ، وَفَرِّقْ بَيْنَنَا إِذَا فَرَّقْتَ إِلَى خَيْرٍ

 

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Hadith on wife demanding divorce

Question

What is the authenticity of the following hadith:

Rasullullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said that a woman who demands separation from her husband will not smell the fragrance of Jannah. Such a woman is termed a munafiq (hypocrite) in the hadith.

 

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Do not delay in five things

Question

Please provide the correct translation and reference of the following:

Sayyiduan ‘Ali (radiyallahu’anhu) said that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) advised haste in 5 matters: Establishing Salah, repentance before death, completing the funeral rites of the deceased, paying off debts, marriage when a suitable match is found. Jazakumullah.

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Du’a for re-uniting couple

Question

A woman left her marital home to go and live with her married daughter The husband pleaded with her to return but to no avail. Her brothers also made attempts at reconciliation asking her for the reasons of leaving her marital home. She refuses to disclose any reason and says she will go with it to the Qabr. The husband also cannot find any valid reason for her behaviour saying that there used to be an occasional argument but nothing further than this. Is this behaviour justified in the light of Quran and Hadith She refuses to see any ‘Alim. Can you provide any du’a to recite?

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