Nikah

A mother’s marital advice to her daughter

Question

Can you provide please the authenticity and the Arabic text of this narration?

Asma bintu Kharijah al Fazari said to her daughter when she was getting married:

“You have left a nest in which you grew up and proceeding to a bed which you know not and a companion with whom you are not familiar. So become for him an earth, and he will become for you a sky. Become for him a place of rest, and he will become for you a pillar of [support]. Become for him a bondmaid, and he will become for you a servant. Do not make excessive demands from him, for he will then loathe you. Do not distance yourself from him, for he will then forget you. Should he draw near to you, then draw close to him. Should he keep his distance, then stay away from him. Be mindful of his nose, his hearing and his eyes such that he smells nothing from you but that which is fragrant, hears nothing but that which is good, and looks at nothing but that which is beautiful.”

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How to create harmony in a marriage

Question

Is this narration authentic:

  عَنِ الثَّوْرِيِّ، عَنِ الْأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي وَائِلٍ قَالَ: جَاءَ رَجُلٌ مِنْ بَجِيلَةَ إِلَى عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، فَقَالَ: إِنِّي قَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ جَارِيَةً بِكْرًا، وَإِنِّي قَدْ خَشِيتُ أَنْ تَفْرِكَنِي، فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ: إِنَّ الْإِلْفَ مِنَ اللَّهِ، وَإِنَّ الْفَرْكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ، لِيُكَرِّهَ إِلَيْهِ مَا أَحَلَّ اللَّهُ لَهُ، فَإِذَا أُدْخِلَتْ عَلَيْكَ فَمُرْهَا فَلْتُصَلِّ خَلْفَكَ رَكْعَتَيْنِ، قَالَ الْأَعْمَشُ: فَذَكَرْتُهُ لِإِبْرَاهِيمَ، فَقَالَ: قَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ: وَقُلِ: اللَّهُمَّ بَارِكْ لِي فِي أَهْلِي، وَبَارِكْ لَهُمْ فِيَّ، اللَّهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِي مِنْهُمْ، وَارْزُقْهُمْ مِنِّي، اللَّهُمَّ اجْمَعْ بَيْنَنَا مَا جَمَعْتَ إِلَى خَيْرٍ، وَفَرِّقْ بَيْنَنَا إِذَا فَرَّقْتَ إِلَى خَيْرٍ

 

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Keeping the name Muhammad

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Is this authentic?

Sayyiduna Abu Umamah (radiyallahu ‘anhu) narrates the following Hadith:

‘Whoever gives birth to a male child and names him Muhammad because of love for me [Rasulullah (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam)] and to derive barakah [blessings] from my name, he [the father] and his child will be in Jannah.’ (Kanzul Ummal V, 16 Pg, 422) Read More »

Forgiveness for a man due to his daughter obeying her husband

Question

Is the following Hadith authentic?

حدثنا يحيى بن عبد الحميد نبا يوسف بن عطية نبا ثابت عن انس رضي الله عنه قال أن امرأة كانت تحت رجل فمرض أبوها فأتت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقالت يا رسول الله إن أبي مريض وزوجي يأبى أن يأذن لي أن أمرضه فقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أطيعي زوجك فمات أبوها فاستأذنت زوجها أن تصلي عليه فأبى زوجها أن يأذن لها في الصلاة فسألت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال لها أطيعي زوجك فأطاعت زوجها ولم تصل على أبيها فقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قد غفر الله لأبيك بطواعيتك زوجك

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The marriage of Sa’d Al Aswad As Sulami (radiyallahu ‘anhu)

Question

Is this incident authentic?

Sa’d Al Aswad As Sulami (radiyallahu ‘anhu) who was not good looking wanted to get married. But none wanted to marry their daughter to him. Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) sent him to a Sahabi and he also initially refused to marry his daughter to Sa’d As Sulami (radiyallahu ‘anhu). However his daughter said that this was the wish of Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and married him. Sa’d As Sulami (radiyallahu ‘anhu) heard the call of jihad, bought a horse and a sword and went to fight and was martyred, Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) looked at him smiled, cried and turned his face.

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The virtue of an obedient wife and the sin of a disobedient wife

Question

What is the authenticity of this Hadith:

Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “A woman who obeys her husband, will be asked for forgiveness by the birds in the sky, fishes in the water, angels in sky, the sun and the moon, as long as the woman is under her husband’s consent. And a woman who disobeys her husband will come to her the curse from Allah, angels and all humans. And a woman who puts on a frown for her husband, she will be under the wrath of Allah until she laughs with her husband and asks for his consent. And a woman who goes out of the house without the husband’s consent, the angels will curse her until she comes home.” Read More »

Meaning of a du’a for creating love between a couple

Question

I came across this du’a provided by you on this website, ‘Allahumma aadim baynana’. Once when Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was informed regarding a discord between two spouses, he recited the above du’a. (Musannaf ibn Abi Shaybah)

I request you to please provide me with the meaning of this du’a and the Arabic text.

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